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Stephen Cain: Why I joined forces with Bentley Wellness

This is a game changer

I'm pleased to write about my association with Bentley Wellness and how that came about. About 4-years ago I was introduced to Nev after spending the 4-years before that in and out of physiotherapists and doctors offices. I have a long history of pain due to do severe shoulder, neck and back injuries. After the first treatment with Nev, my whole life started to change.

As I sit here writing this today, with my hand on my heart I can honestly say that Nev has helped me to overcome not only a lot of my pain, but a lot of my fears. My medication has dropped by over half and I've taken a lot of the serious heavy drugs out of my life completely. My life is more fulfilled now.

In the 4-years I've known Nev, I've figured out that we share the same belief system about changing lives and giving other people the greatest opportunity in their own lives. I'm so proud and honoured that I'm associated with Bentley Wellness, to the extent that we can change lives together.

I've watched Nev work with several people over the last 12-months, and the changes have been incredible. Women walking out of the room without the crutches they walked in on. People giving up smoking. Weight Loss. Getting rid of anxiety. Their confidence, respect and dignity back. These are things that Nev has the ability to do with passion, control and with the end result in mind that it's all about the client. He makes sure they get the most out of everything we can possibly offer as a service.

Although when I first met Nev, the reasons were to alleviate pain from injuries, failed surges with acupuncture needles, I also suffered from severe post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression. One of the things I've been able to realise as a result of his therapies is that it's OK to have a past! It's ok, but you can't live in the past. You only ever have the present moment, and with that moment you can create your future.

Nev has helped me to be able to break a lot of that post traumatic stress and the nightmares I had. I was having 5 or 6 nightmares a night. I would wake up screaming at the top of my lungs, and sweating. My partner would have to rub my chest while quietly reassuring me that everything is ok. Since Nev's treatments, I'd be lucky to have 2 nightmares a week. That's one of the reasons I keep coming back; for the passion and ability and talent that he has to be able to connect with and understand me.

From the age of nine, I felt like I did not belong anywhere. I began smoking cigarettes, stealing and encouraged my brothers and sisters to do the same. The interesting thing is, my friends began to hero worship me, which spurred me on. Drinking alcohol and taking drugs soon followed, and by the age of 12 I had spiralled so far out of control that my father placed him me state care. I was officially "a ward of the state." My dad had to make the decision to protect the other children.

In care, however, my behaviour worsened; I was caught in a stolen car and was sentenced to eight months in detention.

On the first night in detention, I witnessed the gang rape of other inmates. It was a sight that shocked me to the core and destroyed whatever self-worth I had left. By then I was pretty much on my way to becoming a hardened criminal and that just reinforced that I was worthless. At just 18 I had been sentenced a total of 13 times to detention. The next time I was caught in a stolen car I was sentenced as an adult.

I spent six months in HM Prison Pentridge — but it did not stop me. I would spend the next 17 years of my life in and out of jail.

Dead on arrival

In 1992, I did something that would initially take my life, before changing it forever. I'd just had enough. I'd caused so much hurt and destruction not only to myself, but to others. The overwhelming feeling of guilt had taken over, and all I could think was, "what's the point anymore?"

I walked into my prison cell, lined my bin with 3 garbage bags, broke open my razor and laid on my bed and cut my wrists open. I laid down sideways on my bed, with my wrists in the bin, so as to not create a big mess. I could literally feel the life draining out of me. I went to the big white room. It was blissful and amazing. I thought, "I made it to heaven." The heavy weights that I had strapped to my shoulders my whole life had been removed.

I was pronounced dead on arrival at the hospital.

I woke up in a room and felt a couple fingers on my shoulder. In my head I heard the words: 'I'm not finished with you yet.'

After being released from hospital and jail, I moved to Adelaide in 1994. I was coming down off drugs, I was homeless, I only knew one person. I needed change, at one point I was living under a bridge in Adelaide. I stopped using drugs, found a job and for the first time led what others would see as a normal life.

It was during this time that I sat down and put my mind to creating a program to help others facing life's challenges — Empathy Not Sympathy. My company has now been helping people for decades in a social working environment.

I'm happy that I'm now aligning myself and my business with an organisation, Bentley Wellness, that has such a bright future. Together we are going to heal the world. Rare for a younger guy, if you ever have the pleasure of meeting him, you'll realise that Nev has an uncanny ability to understand and connect with people on another level, while not letting you fall prey to your own limitations. He's straight up and honest - I like that.

I welcome you to watch a TV interview of me by clicking on this address:

Yours Truly

Stephen Cain

Some words from Nev

I've loved knowing Steve over the last 4-years. He truly is a miracle. We've mused about joining forces - and now we've finally made it happen. A little known fact about me, and I don't advertise it, is that I also do some special forms energy healing. During Steve's sessions with acupuncture needles, I've been doing energy work in the background. Through this method, we've been able to ease PTSD, cut down on pain medication, and build a better future for him. Energy healing will only work with clients who keep a very open mind. After all, the mind is like a parachute; it only works when its open! With Steve onboard, we are setting forth to show people the gift of mental and spiritual healing.

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